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Three thousand years ago, a wise man said, "Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." Good training is not crisis management; it is what you do before the need of discipline arises. Most parenting is accidental rather than deliberate. Imagine building a house that way. We don't need to reinvent training. There are child training principles and methods that have worked from antiquity. To neglect deliberate training is to shove your child into a sea of choices and passions without a boat of compass. This book is not about discipline, nor problem children. The emphasis is on the training of a child before the need to discipline arises. It is apparent that, though they expect obedience, most parents never attempt to train their child to obey. They wait until the behavior becomes unbearable and then explode. With proper training, discipline can be reduced to 5% of what many now practice. As you come to understand the difference between training and discipline, you will have a renewed vision for your family, no more raised voices, no contention, no bad attitudes, fewer spankings, a cheerful atmosphere in the home, and total obedience from your children.


To Train Up a Child: Turning the hearts of the fathers to the children
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2 / 5
January 28th, 2014
The advice in this book is useless for raising a well adjusted human child. The introduction compares raising a child to training a mule. The authors encourage you to put your child in situations where they will fail (that is, misbehave) so you can swat them. Don't try to explain things to your kids. Obedience is all. This method flies in the face of research on child development, and the authors know it. They start to poison the well early, dismissing the work of "intellectuals" with snide remarks designed to appeal to anti-science sentiments in their target audience. The book offers many anecdotes that follow the same pattern. They are visiting frustrated parents who are already embarrassed at their children's behavior. The authors Judge and ridicule the parents in the text, then tell us how they gave them advice that magically made everything better. The main reason they offer to justify training a child like an animal is so that your neighbors won't judge you harshly. Oh, and Jesus. As a side note, this volume was reportedly found in the home of the foster parents whose charge was starved and eventually died of exposure when she was locked outside. The authors do not advocate this level of torture, but I can understand how this advice could lead to abuse if there were mental health issues with the caregivers. I gave this two stars only because I think it is important that everyone knows that these attitudes exist in our society.
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