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From the acclaimed creator, producer, and star of HBO’s Girls comes a hilarious, wise, and fiercely candid collection of personal essays that establishes Lena Dunham as one of the most original young talents writing today.
            In Not That Kind of Girl, Dunham illuminates the experiences that are part of making one’s way in the world: falling in love, feeling alone, being ten pounds overweight despite eating only health food, having to prove yourself in a room full of men twice your age, finding true love, and, most of all, having the guts to believe that your story is one that deserves to be told.
            “Take My Virginity (No, Really, Take It)” is the account of Dunham’s first time, and how her expectations of sex didn’t quite live up to the actual event (“No floodgate had been opened, no vault of true womanhood unlocked”); “Girls & Jerks” explores her former attraction to less-than-nice guys—guys who had perfected the “dynamic of disrespect” she found so intriguing; “Is This Even Real?” is a meditation on her lifelong obsession with death and dying—what she called her “genetically predestined morbidity.” And in “I Didn’t Fuck Them, but They Yelled at Me,” she imagines the tell-all she will write when she is eighty and past caring, able to reflect honestly on the sexism and condescension she has encountered in Hollywood, where women are “treated like the paper thingies that protect glasses in hotel bathrooms—necessary but infinitely disposable.”
            Exuberant, moving, and keenly observed, Not That Kind of Girl is a series of dispatches from the frontlines of the struggle that is growing up. “I’m already predicting my future shame at thinking I had anything to offer you,” Dunham writes. “But if I can take what I’ve learned and make one menial job easier for you, or prevent you from having the kind of sex where you feel you must keep your sneakers on in case you want to run away during the act, then every misstep of mine will have been worthwhile.”

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Not That Kind of Girl
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3.7 / 5
August 18th, 2015
It was soooo boring! I thought it would be a light funny copilation of stories and lessons that one could take away! Instead it's just a boring copilation of weird sex life! I didn't need to read how many people she's spooned with, just not a good read
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A good read
December 31st, 2014
An easy read. Entertaining and endearing. As a twenty something, there are many similarities to my own life. I recommend it to those looking to escape for a bit. Don't expect any profound life lessons.
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boring did not meet expectations
November 27th, 2014
This book was very lame and poorly written, overall rather boring read. I did not find it funny as I expected it to be.
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Poor editing
November 14th, 2014
She’s so candid and honest, speaking openly about her mental state and her past sexual assaults. It’s nice to read someone else’s thoughts and insecurities and how she’s worked at overcoming them. We all deal with similar, if not the same, thoughts as her, so it’s always comforting to know we’re not alone in them. While it's disconnected and poorly edited, if you can look past that, it's not hard to read.
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Edit edit edit
November 3rd, 2014
I am a Lena fan, but this book just didn't do it for me. She really could have used an editor. I think the book was rushed, and her editorial team maybe a bit afraid to "censor" her - although repeating vagina over and over again isn't simply controversial, it's bad writing. The categorization of the essays is at times nonsensical (10 reasons to love New York appears under friendship) and makes the themes feel repetitive rather than cohesive. I look forward to her next book, where we can hear a bit more about her career and less about her privileged childhood - hopefully after it has seen a proper edit.
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I don't believe that I am the only one that didn't enjoy this book
October 31st, 2014
I thought the chapters on the contents of her purse and her food diary were a waste of time to read. What was the point of this? To fill space because Lena is too young to have lived enough to write her memoirs? Whatever the reason maybe, I feel she was trying to get the page count up. Yes I like "Girls" and "Tiny Furniture", but this was not Lena's best work. Maybe it's the fact that she is too young to be writing her memoirs, who knows. I just didn't find the book that interesting.
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Lena Dunham is, as always, my fave.
October 13th, 2014
I cried when I finished reading this book. My only wish is that there were a thousand more pages if it.
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Loved it!
October 3rd, 2014
How could I not? The voice of our generation!
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